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Dating to change your life

spiritual dating guidance

Dating to Change Your Life by Lola Jones

Value Yourself. Love Your Life. Meet Your Soulmate.

Consciously or not, you are determining your love life.

Learn step-by-step how you can  enjoy dating more, and find love ... at any age.


  • Your new confidence
  • The easy conversational tone of the book, like talking with a friend who just happens to be an expert on dating
  • The humor
  • The practical ideas you've never heard before
  • The new definition of success in dating

"You'd have to read 20 other books to find this much practical, down to earth wisdom on dating and relationships, plus you laugh out loud, a great attitude to get into for dating."

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Dating To Change Your Life Is Packed With Valuable Know-How

You'll find information in this book you quite simply won't see anywhere else.

Lola Jones has studied with relationship experts, and has become one herself. She has lectured, coached, and inspired thousands of people in business and in their personal lives, and helped them to have more fulfilling lives. Lola found that dating is a prime opportunity to grow and expand yourself, over and above the opportunity to find your love.

This book shows you how to enjoy being single more, as well as how to find your love, because happy people find healthier relationships, and they last longer. When you show up happier, more complete --- your chances of lasting love increase.


  • The top 10 mistakes... and how to avoid them
  • 30 ways to succeed at dating
  • Timing for sex while dating
  • Practical information on compatibility
  • A system that virtually eliminates bad matches
  • A guide to savoring every moment of courtship

A Personal Note from author Lola Jones

After years of relationships with charming (or not-so-charming) Mr. Wrongs, I decided something had to change. At first, I said the heck with it and started spending my weekends with my horse and my good friends. 

Then I committed to learning how to make better choices, and started dating in a whole new way. Then I realized I had a book to write. People loved it.

If I do say so myself, this book is practical, wise, heartfelt, down-to-earth ... also funny and no-holds-barred. It still makes me laugh when I read it. It gives you all the secrets I eventually (happy, tired sigh) discovered about dating and relationships, and shares stories about how others found their match, online and elsewhere. 

The transformation you'll undergo is much bigger than just your dating life. You'll change from the inside out, and then you'll see your dating luck changing. You'll build your  self-confidence, gain savvy, have more fun and humor in your daily life, and gain a certainty that everything is happening in perfect timing.

I'll show you how to set clear (not mixed) intentions and take specific steps to success.

You'll wise up without getting cynical, and read people like a book. You'll value yourself more, and have way more fun at dating after reading this book. You'll handle the frustrations almost everyone encounters with dating with more ease. You can read it in a couple hours or savor it in several sittings, and start succeeding your first day.

People come to events and introduce me to the mates they met after reading this book!

OK, it's time to get started. Ms. or Mr. Right doesn't have all day, ya know.


No More Rejection
You will never feel rejected again once you learn this one amazing secret. This one chapter alone will change your life, and will serve you in other areas of your life.

No More Mystery
Now you'll finally "get" how it works, and why. You'll soon be clear about who that other person really is, rather than getting caught up in illusions that disappoint you later.

No More Settling For Less Than You Want
You'll learn to value yourself so much that you become a magnet for good matches. This is the key to finding "a good one."

Dating Is Supposed To Be FUN!
I know... I hated it too, before I made my big change and learned to LOVE it, and do it well! Find out how to make dating so much fun that you'll forget to stress out about finding your soul mate. Then they'll find you. Dating became more fun than I'd ever had in my life. 

You'll have more fun too after you read this book. I share with you all the secrets of dating -- everything you need to know but were never taught. 

It answers all the big questions:
What's the protocol? Fast or slow?  How to read people. Why do you meet the ones you do? Why does it turn out the way it does? How do you meet, get to know, choose, and keep a partner? If you don't like your romantic past, how do you change it?

Learn "How To Date" Online and Offline
It's a skill you learn, like any skill. I didn't meet my soulmate online, but online dating was my "education" in dating. It got me ready to meet the ONE. It upgraded the quality of men I was daating, and increased my confidence as I got more selective. I got clear on exactly who and what I was looking for.

I show you step by step how to get there, and how to have more fun doing it.Get the know-how to handle the online and in person encounters with aplomb and humor. Successfull people who don't meet enough people in their daily routines (that was me, working at home) are finding the internet to be the place to meet their single peers.

It's the best, if you know how to do it.

This Book Is For All Ages: From Twenties Through Sixties and Beyond

There's someone for everyone.
There's someone for YOU....
And they're out there looking for you RIGHT NOW.

What They Never Told You About The Dating Game

When I was 8 or 9 I was given a board game called The Dating Game, wherein you tried to navigate past Poindexter the Nerd and Skippy the Nice Boy to snag a date with Ken the Bad Boy.

Most of us never quite learned much more than that about wisely choosing a match. And now it's .... oh, uh ... some years later, and perhaps you're on round 2 or 3 or 4 or……. oh forget it…. sigh…'re dating AGAIN.

Did you get an education in dating, love, and choosing the right partner? I sure didn't. And yet we have very high expectations of our relationships. This book has it all. Get started today when you order the ebook or paperback. Either way your ebook comes instantly and you start reading, and smiling, today.

I spent years (and a lot of money) learning all of this,
and now I'm sharing it with you in a fun, practical, easy to read package.

You'll want to talk about it with your friends, so get them a gift copy too.
Now you'll laugh together and share fun stories rather than commiserating about failed dates and broken hearts!

Dating and Personal Development Quiz:

  • Are you clear on who is a good match for you? Are you sure? Your results tell that tale.
  • Would you like to be at peace about past relationships ending?
  • Have you let go of any old out-dated ways of choosing mates? 
  • Are you wanting to feel better about yourself as a good catch?
  • Are you wanting to upgrade your dating choices... and results?


  • Increase your self esteem quickly
  • Become more confident and selective
  • Stop relying on meeting people in bars, but become more attractive everywhere you go
  • Be able to get more dates than you want or need
  • Be inspired by success stories
  • Create your plan for success
  • Enjoy being single more

Here are just a few chapter titles:

People Who Are Not Ready, But Think They Are - Most of the people out there dating are not yet ready for a relationship..... here's how to tell who is, and how not to take it personally if they're not ready.  How to know if you are really ready and why that matters...

Never Feel Rejected Again, Really - There's an easy secret to never feeling rejected again. You can use this is other areas of life as well...

Reframing Success in Dating - Is success getting lots of dates, getting married, getting laid? You'll find a surprising answer that sets you free…

Online Dating Glossary, With Translations - What do they really mean when they say things. How to read between the lines...

Chemistry 101 - Chemistry and sexual attraction are unreliable indicators of a match. Here's how to handle that wisely and choose a mate that works for you and leads to happiness....

I Didn't Always Know This Stuff - It's OK if you don't know much about dating or the opposite sex, life is for learning, and this book is a giant step....

Some Truths Are Truer Than Others - You're unique. Here's how to make the most of this information ....and make it fit YOU…..

The Power of the Mirror - Another easy secret that will open your eyes to what is really going on when someone is ugly to you, or things go wrong .....

Accelerated Dating - Why dating is such a valuable personal learning opportunity and how to take maximum advantage of it ....

Gender - Why this book is for men and women equally.....

Writing Your Online Profile - You could spend $100-200 on a "profile consultant" or personal matchmaker and still not improve your profile this much….. Don't hire one till you read this book.

Making and Choosing Online Profile Photos - The photo you choose can make or break your success, and if you don't show a photo.... people will think you're in the witness protection program, married, or your face breaks cameras... and much more...


Every chapter is full of meaty, practical advice you can use today,
and humor to help you enjoy life and dating more.

Not theory. Real life.

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More Reader Comments:

"Gives some direction during dating - allowing for a more spiritual and intellectual foundation for a possible connection. I am one year out of a 38 yr. marriage - for someone like me this reading is helpful - to be witness to someone that has been there, and getting the perspective from a woman's view is beneficial." Dan F., investor

"It's super-condensed wisdom, and it applies to other areas of life too." Bob D, singer/songwriter

"Hi Lola, Got the it last nite...yes, its interesting, instructive and provocative, prescriptive, and importantly, authentic. I was expecting it to be heavily slanted to analysis and was pleasantly surprised at the how to's, which were practical and interesting." Ed

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