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A Divine Openings Giver asks Lola what to say when a client asks, "Can't I just put my own hands on my own head and give myself a Divine Opening?"
Tell them if they can do that, to do it! And if they can't, you can. The 5 Day Silent Intensive opened you to be able to do it.

Dear Lola, Would you define enlightenment and self-realization?
No. I encourage people to stop seeking "something" whether it be self -realization or whatever, and not to worry so much about definitions, which every teacher, guru, or author defines diffferently. When you get caught up striving for some definition, you introduce resistance, and can forget that Life is for living, expanding, and evolving... and with Divine Openings, once you begin to open up and let go, all those stages happen without any EFFORT. And then you don't care what it's called... you're really living.
Much love, Lola

Dear Lola, You said once that more people than ever are members on this site, but the chat rooms are quiet sometimes, as people are experiencing the Divine Within, but don't need to talk about it. It gets very private and intimate. I so get this now. Then you said "spiritual should become an outmoded term". What does that mean?

It means I hope people are out there building community that is not based on working on yourself or seeking, but is based on celebrating, creating, living, and loving. It may not be called "spiritual"! Spiritual has taken on a meaning like "hospital"! Wild, huh? No one should live their whole life in a hospital "striving to get better"! Get better, then get out and live, enjoy, and be productive! When I give parties or socialize, i t's regular people, with music, dance, chat, and some even drink a little wine. It's not EVER labelled spiritual. I live a normal life -- good balance to this wild one I live with Divine Openings! Love you, you free and happy being, Lola

"Dear Lola, Your email is like a fresh breeze, 2 days ago, (months into reading the book), I was taken totally by surprise by a relationship speedbump.... my husband's very negative aggressive vibrations, it hit me in the solar plexus, like a blow. I could not get my nose up for a complete day and night, using all the information in the book, watching the videos, listening to your Sooth Yourself CD, listening to your music, it all helped a bit, and eventually I had to leave the house and walked for over an hour. That worked but I have still felt bruised inside, until an hour ago when I recieved your email (an automated followup from the book purchase). God Bless You Lola. I have gained great experience from this gift, and will now reach stability soon. Much Love and Peace Profound." Eileen xx
Blessings to you my dear! Yes, you are now very difficult to keep down! It is not unusual for your opening to affect a spouse - it begins to move their vibration. Oddly enough, this is a very positive indicator that your vibration has changed so much it has de-stabilized the old equilibrium between you. If he had some very low vibrations active within him, "upward" could mean "up through anger". Good for you for immersing yourself in high vibrations as best you could, and for listening within to go for that walk! We don't "like it", but we just have to let them move their feelings. Much love, Lola

"Hi Lola, When the book opens me up to this wonderful state of bliss and enlightenment, why do I need to take online courses?  Isn't that just more of the "you need to work harder?"  Angela
Dear Angela, 1. Some people want more support -- some don't -- everyone's pace is different. 2. It's helpful to fill your mind with this new vibe daily, and connect with those who are living this way. These multimedia courses are colorful, fun, and not work at all. 3. Some people are more resistant, have more fear, feel more unworthiness, or have more blind spots, and need more help. 4. By Level 2, it's all about fun, a higher evolutionary level than the book. Then Jumping The Matrix takes you into newer territory. By then, you don't "need it", but you may just want it. When exploring new countries, I get a map, and advice from some "experts" who've been there, or know the hot spots. But I create my own experience of it. 5. The evolution goes on for eternity..... it never stops, although desperate seeking, and suffering, and powerlessness, can certainly stop. I am an "evolution guide". I am a specialist in bringing in new energies to the planet. I occassionally use an internet expert, even though I am one. Because of their more intense focus, they have access to higher info than I have. I focus on this 24/7, so I'm more deliberately tuned in than the average bear, I guess you could say. 6. Most importantly, people are not ready to let it all in at one time. See the note below. Follow your heart, not your head, my dear!  Love, Lola

PS - Another "Angela" wrote this:
"I have only done half the openings in the book, and am waiting a bit before continuing, because the effects were so overwhelming, I couldn't handle everything being so good so fast, although there were some down trends, but mostly up. I am not used to being so clear headed or being so much in control of my life and realizing I have so many, many choices.  It's taken some acclimation. The book is wonderful, it empowers, it sets me free.  You are amazingly accurate on so many points, and I thank you for the gift of grace."  Angela

"Relationship question: I'm getting a divorce, and my wife and I have opposite ideas about what to do with our house. When two people want two different things, how can The Presence give both what they're asking for?" A Veterinary Doctor

I think the Intellegence that orchestrates all dimensions and Universes can handle that little detail, don't you? If you can get out of the way, that is. You can always have the essence of what you want, if not the form, if you'll let The Divine do the heavy lifting. Let go of how you think it has to look, or be. There are millions of ways for you both to be happy with the outcome. There are at least a million ways for both you and your ex to be happy.
(He wrote again in a week to say it worked and it was resolved. She came up with a new plan to buy him out, and they were both happy.)

"I got a reading from a psychic who said I would be moving out of Austin, and I just got here!"
After recommending a reader who is a Divine Openings Giver, and getting too many problematic responses about it, I'm resuming my old policy that readings are to be used very sparingly, if at all. And I'm not going to recommend any psychic, even though at certain times and in certain circumstances there can be value in it. A psychic is YOU telling YOU what you're having a hard time hearing from YOU. So focus on getting out of the way and releasing resistance to hearing it from you.

Too often, the very vibration that makes you go get a reading is just going to get reflected in the reading. If you are confused or fearful about something (which are the usual reasons to get a reading) the information you get will usually be tinged with confusion, or inspire more fear! It's a catch 22. You should only get a reading when you don't really need one! Of course, if you can use the information to say, "Wow, look what I'm creating if I stay on this vibration!" and you shift it, using your own Instrument Panel and your own resources, it can be helpful.

It may be that you have inner doubts about moving here, you've been sweeping them under the rug, and the reading reflected them to you. If so, you needed to dive into those feelings until they rise up the scale and you get at least neutral about being here. Then you're free. Same could be said of a reading that said you didn't want to be on this planet. It doesn't mean you need to leave, it means you need to dive into those feelings. Then you end up being happy here, and don't have to move to Venus. Never take what you hear as literal or set in stone. Nothing is set in stone. Crystal was told she'd want another baby, and she later realized she does have the desire to let a friend of her child live in her home.

I've observed that when your Large Self is ready for you to go within for most of your answers, support, and information, readings can go haywire for you, so you will stop. Other Divine Openings Givers have experienced this wacky-reading syndrome too.

IF you get a reading, it's a good idea to feel the truth of the information for yourself. Psychics are only 80% accurate at best, because it's filtered through a limited human perspective, and constricted by language. And don't take ANY dire news as truth. A high vibration psychic will only give you the upside, even if something you don't want is going to happen. They will give you only helpful information.

Dump anything that doesn't feel right to you. Better yet, practice getting almost all your answers from inside and from life's messages to you. People say just what you needed to hear every day.  Our Large Self is always giving us all the input we need in the form of feelings and messages. Whether we're open to it or not is another thing! What psychics say to you may not be "true" -- it may just be a stimulus to get some energy moving. Moving energy to raise your vibration upward is what you want anyway. You want to feel good. That's why you got the reading. So practice feeling good and letting your Large Self handle the future.
Love, Lola

"I was feeling the Divine Energy very strongly. Now I feel kinda numb. What is this?"

Hello, love. Two possibilities come to mind for anyone who feels less 'high' after a while. 1. We get used to the high energy and it begins to feel normal.... like it's no big deal. No matter how high you get, it will eventually feel like everyday stuff at some point. 2. More likely in YOUR case is that you have gone numb because don't want to feel what is arising next. There could be a resistance to letting go more, and feeling some deep things that your mind tells you "NO, NO, you can't feel THAT!!!" You can feel it, of course. It's only a paper tiger, honey. But many have let paper tigers stop them from reaching their full potential. See, the Divine Energy does it all for you, but your free will allows you to say, "Go for it..... or stop!!!" All is well, dear Divine being... ask for Divine help to feel..... you can keep expanding and surfing ...... and overall, it will get better and better, forever.

"What are chakras?"

The understanding of chakras is not necessary for your enlightenment, so I'm not going to explain what little I know about them here. With Divine Openings, you wake up without studying, analyzing, or collecting more facts and knowledge. The only chakra I mention in the book is the crown chakra. It is your portal to Divine Energy, and it is where Divine Openings "enter" your body and then flood the other chakras with awakening. (That is a gross oversimplification, I'm sure. Things are not nearly as linear, nor as bound by space/time as our mind wants to make them.) The main point is: you can have a very happy, enlightened, and fulfilled life without understanding chakras, meridians, sacred geometry, what makes the cosmos run, or any metaphysical knowledge. I often see people getting so caught up in collecting knowledge, that they stay in that mental game and never reach full enlightenment, which is about letting go to the mystery -- not working at it, defining it, or explaining it. Trying to "learn" your way to liberation is a dead end. You can't do it. Drop the quest for human understanding, and dive deep into the mystery, which can only be felt and "known" from experience. Many are running from feeling and distracting themselves with mere knowledge. The mental machinations are a "spiritual bypass". The real power is in feeling and direct experience.

"About enlightenment: Are all Divine Openings Givers enlightened, and are they beyond having human problems?"

Some are quite enlightened, and some are still  in the enlightenment process, after completing the 5 Day Silent Intensive. The best news it that every Divine Openings Giver can initiate your enlightenment, regardless of how "advanced" our own enlightenment is. We are able to step out of the way and let PURE Divine Grace come through us. It goes right past our personality and any human limitations we might still have. That's the beauty and power of Grace -- we don't have to be perfect to transmit perfection. There is variation in whether Divine Openings Givers let all that Grace in fully in their own lives, and how much they've let go of resistance. We all still have free will, and some Givers still hold onto resistance in some areas of their lives for awhile, so the degree that they still have human problems varies. A Giver could initiate your enlightenment, and if you let go really fast, you could become fully liberated before they do!

"Hi, Lola, For the past 3 days (starting a day after my weekly Divine Opening) I have been "tearing up" at the most inappropriate times.  I was smiling and kind of embarrassed, but in a comical way. Then after the tears, I feel this "feeling" settle "around" me like relief (but different?) that lasts 3-5 min or so, accompanied by the "shaking"...like if you hold your hand out straight in front of you and it trembles...but only it's in my whole body.  The trembling has been going on for a while now (ever so slightly -  for about a month); the "tears" just started.  And I get a kind of warm, "giddy" feeling after the tears.  
 
Nothing about this is unpleasant.  I feel like something is happening, but I don't know what.  I'm definitely not sad and have been unusually calm and happy and worry-free for awhile now (since reading your book in January).
 
Am I "moving" stuff...?  It's getting kind of comical, now.  We're making jokes about it, like now I can't go out of the house because I don't know when the "tears switch" is going to flip to the "on" position, etc.  I have no control of it, it seems.  It goes as quickly as it comes on.  It's like witnessing someone else "tearing up"...not me.  And through all of this...I feel myself getting happier and happier. Is this part of "waking up"?" Love and Appreciation, Kathy

Kathy, Oh, yes, yes, yes! It is part of waking up, and it is so good. Witnessing yourself, and involuntary crying, laughing, screaming, movement, or shaking are classic hallmarks of enlightenment initiation. Congratulations. Although it feels very out of control, it's your Large Self taking control. The tearing up stage will pass.  Enjoy. Surf. Love it all. Love, Lola

"Dear Lola, I have been guided to The Secret, then Abraham-Hicks, Seth, you, and now, Elias. Elias makes some negative predictions. Are they/you/we all 'one'?" Molly

Dear Molly, this is such an excellent question. First off, I will say that more stuff (more channelers, more psychics, books, courses) is not better. You can get too mental about it, and become an information collector. Much of it conflicts, there is confusion, and you never get liberated. Personally, I don't read much (except humor books) and I don't seek at all anymore. I prefer direct, inner experience. There's nothing better. So my suggestion would be to stop looking so much out there. Get a direct relationship with The Divine. All the incessant questions will stop. You will live a rich life instead of seeking answers and thinking about living someday. (NOTE: your mind has no interest in your liberation from seeking, so it will keep you seeking.)

We do sometimes get help from others. But when you're always talking, reading tons of books, taking all manner of seminars, and asking questions, and working, working, working on yourself, you've set up a paradigm of seeking, but not finding. God is right here all the time. It's hard to find in the clutter, though!

Of course we're all one, but with many flavors and at many vibrations. Obviously Hitler was at a different vibration than Gandhi, although they/we were/are one.

The channel colors the message - always. Some channels are cleaner, and higher vibrational than others. Bringing pure Divine energy messages into Earth language involves translation. The channel, author, teacher translates energies into words. Therein lies the rub. Their own fears, prejudices, and beliefs color their translation. I know mine do. I'm clear about it and I'll tell you that right off.

One acid test: high vibrational channels are never doom and gloom... ever. God doesn't "do" doom and gloom. Just as judgment and damnation is a reflection of some ancient writer's vibration (not God's), so today's doomsday messages reflect a lower vibration. Pure God energy will feel good and be uplifting. It may be in your face, irreverent, or give you a kick in the arse, but the net effect will raise your vibration, and never scare you or make you feel bad.

If the predictions are negative, and if you vibrate with those messages, you help create those realities for YOU. For instance, if you dwell on predictions of cataclysmic earth changes, you'll be more likely to experience emotional storms in yourself and others around you.

No negative prediction is a fact. It can be changed, at least in YOUR world.

If it's confusing you, then you're eating too much and digesting too little. You're overfed and undernourished. Go deeper with one thing that works for you rather than snacking on all these  things.

I ask, "What are you running from that you can't sit still and feel the power of God, right here, right now?" Sometimes people will begin to FEEL with Divine Openings, then they run off to find some answers outside so they won't have to feel. Be willing to feel everything, and you will get all the answers. You are so loved, and it is all being offered to you so simply. Stop seeking. Sit, breathe, feel, feel, feel, feel....until your vibration moves up, up, up.... and you feel the pure truth within you.   Love, Lola

"Hi Lola, I am reading the book, I love it, but I am still grieving the loss of the most important adult in my life. He passed 3 yrs. ago this month. I miss him every day. Does grief, at whatever stage, get in the way of awakening?" Thanks so much, Carol in NH
Dear Carol, Yes, grief slows down your enlightenment. It's a very low vibration. Not bad, LOW.
If you haven't come to the Diving In part of the book, go there. And the Dive In Audio set has specific help for this -- see Audios in the menu. Death of a loved one, when you let it all flow, actually can open your heart and accelerate your awakening. If you can't yet do it alone, have private sessions. I've worked with many in your situation just recently, and they have ZOOMED.... often in one week. Your life is waiting! Love, Lola

"When will I stop having negative emotions?"
Oh, dear, never, I hope! Emotions let you know where you are in relationship to The Divine! You wouldn't want to throw your compass away if you got lost, would you? You wouldn't break your smoke alarms because they're noisy and annoying ...would you?

I hear so many people asking this, and it is the very resistance to down or negative feelings that cause those feelings to persist.

Trying to get rid of negative emotions, heal them, fix them, or make them go away is one of the leading causes of negative emotions! Have you ever noticed that no matter how many of them you heal, more always come? This is a booby trap of pop spirituality and psychology.

Trying to do what I call a “spiritual bypass” around negative emotions causes many good, spiritual people to get stalled in their development. Avoidance of negative emotion is a glass ceiling that leaves you mystified at what is blocking you. You can meditate 5 hours a day, but you can’t go beyond a certain spiritual height without totally embracing and loving the whole human experience, including the body and emotions.

May I suggest that you ask a different question? “How can I be with, embrace, and freely allow ANY emotion to flow on through me, and gain emotional fluidity and freedom?” Then, interestingly, you'll have negative emotions a lot less.

Those who stay with the process master it, because this process gives you so much help from Divine Grace, and gives you the conscious mind tools you need. Why try to do it all yourself? Let the help in, honey!

"Dear Lola, All of your supposed good efforts (newsletters) are ending in an attempt to sell me something.  I cannot afford to buy anything, I am literally financially destitute." R

Dear R,
Feel the vibration you are generating...... Be careful that you are not spiralling down into more resistance to the very money you desperately need. This is a material world, dear one, and no effort, no matter how lofty, can go on unfunded.  You too must generate funds to live on, and soon, it sounds like!  Bless everyone who is productively generating money to fuel their dreams, and let in the same for yourself. Give up this current resistance to money, and to all who are doing good and doing well, and to keep me aprised of your successes.  Much love,  Lola

(He read the book, did the online course, kept me updated, and is doing very well.)

"How do you prostrate?"

For those who haven't read the book, prostrating is a process to help you let go -- to 'lay it all down at the feet of The Divine.' The key is to relax deeply and give over all your cares. You can do this on a bed or on your back. There are no rules. Breathe for the pleasure of it until you feel the big sigh of relief. Here's an illustration.
   

"I am experiencing so much energy flowing through me since Divine Openings that I feel like I'll pop. I don't know what to do with it."

You're out there on the leading edge of evolution, baby! Your neurology is literally evolving to let more energy flow through you. You're getting ready to become more the being you really are -- to let more of your non-physical Large Self live in and through you. Part of this is kundalini life force activating. Some resistance to the rapid expansion is "normal," and it will pass. Breathe soothingly and gently, feeling it fully, softly. Savor it and embrace it. "Prostrate and hand it all over to The Divine" is the best answer for most things. Don't do more Divine Openings until you are smoothly flowing the energy you've already opened to. Ask The Divine Presence for ease and grace. Do whatever feels good to you. Write, create, garden, play, exercise, do yoga, baths, walks, and channel that energy. Give it an outlet to move. Energy wants to move through you, or it can get bottled up. It wants you to live more fully. You will get used to it. Don't worry. Relax into it and know that it is good.  Soon you'll be asking for more!

One who did the 5-Day Silent Initiation is experiencing this more intensely:

"Waves of dizzy spells were occurring way before I began Divine Openings, but have intensified and are coming more frequently since the book and the one day intensive. Since the 5 day, they happen almost every hour.

For a few days I have had this little electrical sensation, about the size of the tip of a pen, on the right side of my crown.  It's a little tingly feeling.  It gets really strong when I go to your website. Last night in bed, all of a sudden I got this whooosh of energy around the crown of my head and it spead quickly through the rest of my body.  I just noticed it and kept reading... then it became so intense that I had to put the book down and lay back and just breathe... I was overcome with feelings of gratitude and love and felt like I was floating on a cloud.  When the wave was over, what felt like around two minutes or so, I resumed reading the magazine... about five minutes later, another wave came through.  I layed back and did the same thing.  I took it as a "sign" (speaking of signs) that what I'm doing is on track. There is no discomfort.  I just wanted to make sure that these sensations were normal.  Should I seek a medical attention for any of it? Did you, or do you, experience anything like these sensations?"     Love ya!  Tammy

Dear Tammy,
Yes, those are all pretty common and they pass. While I can never tell you what to do, I can make some suggestions. When new, powerful energies are coming in, and when kundalini is rising, especially after the 5-Day, the body can be overwhelmed at times. The bliss is nice! Your assimilating this helps the collective let it in. I, and other people who are teaching at this level, are asking for even more energy than you are, and we have it even more intensely at times. Esther Hicks felt like her "toe was in a light socket" in the early days of channeling Abraham. Now it's no big deal because she's up to speed with that energy. I experience that too.... it amps up, buzzzz!.... then I get used to it. It amps up, buzzz.... again I get used to it. It becomes normal.

Now: your body DOES send you messages about things you need to release resistance on, and so there's the place to pay attention. The dizziness sounds like energy needing to flow more freely. Let it. Disease is just energy flow that has been resisted for too long. Especially since you were having dizziness before Divine Openings, use your best judgment as to whether to get a check up. These all  SOUND like new energies coming in... but ask for guidance within. Don't ignore areas where energy is not flowing. That does lead to physical problems. Trade soothings with the other Divine Openings Givers. Are you singing, dear songbird? I'd suggest yoga, stretching, walking, singing, long baths, prostrating, giving it to God. Talk to The Divine about it, like, "Hey! Give me some guidance here!" hee hee.... Feel the answers.  And the new chakra balancing audios will be out soon.    Love, Lola

"Lola, I heard my name called after the first Divine Opening from the book. Then the next time the TV turned on all by itself.  Both of these experiences made me afraid that I am calling spirits that I do not want. Please advise."

There are no evil spirits. There are only reflections of your current vibration. I've helped people "disappear" their so-called demons by getting this. Your interpretation of events will always match your vibration. I was blessed to realize early in life that any evil or menacing presence or apparition was my darkness, my fear. I'd face up to it and say, "This is an aspect of myself," and it has gone and never re-appeared. I never use "protection," and I never needed it. There is nothing to protect from except your own creations. Did your religion or some book make you afraid? Just think about it. If your current vibration on the subject of "Spirit, or spirits" was higher you'd be saying, "Wow ...miracles! Yes, I'm here! Talk to me!" So soothe your small self. Its habit is fear .... even fear of the light. In the Bible people would fall down in fear and hide their eyes when angels or a burning bush appeared. (It's OK -- no judgment, humanity is evolving.) Don't give fear ANY power. The Divine is sending you messages, but the fearful small self interprets them through a filter of fear. Don't buy it. It is not real. Get angry at it if you need to, to take your power back. (That blasts you up the Altimeter.) Then give it to The Divine and it will rise. By all means, if you ever need help with this old, old pattern, get sessions or take a course.

"I read your book, and I did not have any Divine Openings that I am aware of. I had three deekshas and only felt a little with one. To say I'm disappointed is an understatement, I will reread the book and hope to touch a piece of the Divine at some other time. If you could add any comforting thoughts it would help. I can't believe the Divine would overlook me, but somehow that IS how I feel." Jackie

Hi sweetie, Keep moving. Don't "take score". It is bringing you down, not up. Complaining will hold you back big time. Stop complaining about ANYTHING. Give thanks for any tiny thing that is going right for you. People will tell me they're not getting it, yet when I get them to look at what is RIGHT, it turns out wonderful results are happening, but their minds were ignoring, repressing, and negating that, and focusing on on what is NOT happening!!! It is your Free Will to listen to your small self or your Large Self until you're scott free, honey.

I'll just give you two points:
1. Divine Openings often works way down deep for a while to burn through your layers of beliefs and conditioning. 2. My best friend took the longest of anyone I know to feel it! I've had some people wake up overnight, yet my friend took over a year to "get the bliss" in a live course. The more you negate it, the slower it goes. You gotta focus on what you want, and what is good. Do read the book again. You'll be able to hear more of it. The answers to all your questions are given in the book many times, but you were not yet at a vibration to let it in. It's OK. All is well.

First off, never make it wrong, and never ever ever make yourself wrong. Feel the relief in that? It is perfect. The anger is moving. That's good. It is allowing that old energy of the past to flow on out. The anger is probably not even about anything that is happening now. Don't project it outward on anyone if you can help it. Just take it within to The Divine, and be with it, without the story. Do the Diving In process, in the book and on audios. And give thanks for feelings every minute.

Dear Obsessed,
That feeling of longing for love, if you think about it, is not love at all! It’s the feeling of lacking love. All our lives we’ve heard and felt the angst in most songs, movies, and novels and got conditioned that love feels like that. Honey, that aching, bittersweet, painful feeling of “wanting but not having or keeping” is NOT LOVE. I was in my late forties before I realized that the feeling sensation I’d always thought was love, was actually angst, lacking, fear, and insecurity about losing a love. As I’d look in his eyes, I was actually feeling, “Oh, I love him so much. I hope he still loves me tomorrow. Does he love me? Oh, sweet sorrow!”

And he’s not even gone yet! But he soon is, at least emotionally, when you’re vibrating that feeling.

Freedom came when I no longer needed a partner and had such a solid, powerful foundation within myself that lack, longing, and insecurity were no longer even in my repertoir of feelings. Those questions won’t even occur to you when you’re truly free.

Your thoughts will run more like, “This is fun. We’ll see where it goes. It’s all good. If he’s the one, he’ll win ME. If not, who wants a man who doesn’t want me? I’m having a great time anyway, no hurry.”

Yes, you will, I promise.

The feeling of love has no fear, drama, or angst in it. None! It’s comfortable, easy, and sweet. There are no questions. There is no wondering. It feels 100% good 95% of the time when two enlightened, secure people are together.

Now, all this is easy to say, so here’s what to do for starters: forget about dating and go get happy and secure. Commit to having as much fun as a human can have, and get your mind completely off of relationship. Find it in friends, and most of all, within your Divine Self. Make close friends with it. The Divine Presence is the best matchmaking service in the world.

Often the best way to release resistance on a subject you’re obsessed about is to take a big long vacation from that subject. Tear your little fingernails loose from it and PLAY! If you want love now, get a dog and experience what real love is. Here, borrow my dog Honey till you get one: 

Then true love comes up and licks your hand when you least expect it.

PS - Read my dating book: Dating To Change Your Life (see books page). It's a personal growth book first and foremost, and it tells you exactly how I got to that place of freedom, step by step. Once I got there, I met Michael, and now we live in a spicy, fun, passionate, and exciting, but drama-free zone.

Stop. Get out of the story. The story just revs you up, magnifies the problem, makes you more the victim, and keeps you stuck in that story. You, being the powerful creator that you are, create a situation where you’re the victim, then you make up a juicy story that makes them the villains, and then you act as if this reality is their creation. Hello. It’s yours. If the story is disempowering to you, stop telling it now.

Before acting out another scene in this screenplay you’ve written yourself into, stop and rewrite the scene. Get your power back. Fully feel what you’re feeling, without the story.

It’s about your vibrations, that are creating your reality. Flow your feelings, experience them fully. Raise your vibration, and the whole play will look different. You can rewrite it any way you want.

Read the book, Things Are Going Great In My Absence, then order the audio set, Dive In And Be With It. It helps you master your emotions and get your freedom and power back, before you act. Then when you take action, you’re clear, inner-guided, and effective. Then you can hear Divine guidance, and let it do the heavy lifting.

You don’t need to heal anything, sweetie. You never did. You just need to relearn to let energy and emotion flow. Don’t hold it back, don’t try to diminish it, and don’t keep recreating it either. We recreate it by telling the story over and over to ourselves and others, by thinking about it, and reliving it, processing it, and focusing on it. So drop the story and feel only the feelings. Then they will move. But they won't move if you keep retelling yourself the story. They'll intensify.

And going looking for things to “heal” …. Well, that actually creates more things to heal. You ask, “What is holding me back?” and your mind creates some stuff in response to it. Your mind loves to do that because it likes continuing this game. You ask, “What do I need to heal?” and your mind creates some more stuff to heal. This can go on for a lifetime ....

.... Oh..... you’ve noticed that.

Having someone else "heal" you just makes you dependent on a never ending string of healers and seminars. By learning to flow energy, all that becomes a non-issue, and you can just live.

Reclaim the wisdom you were born with that lets every experience come and go, come and go, holding onto nothing. Let the energy of all that old stuff flow on through you and out. It’s natural to children, before we train them out of it! You are not wounded or broken. You are good, you are whole, you are powerful. Popular culture has conditioned us to believe that we need to work on ourselves endlessly to get happy. It’s much easier than that. Your natural state is happiness. Divine Openings removes what is NOT you, and what is left is happy.

Now, I know it's easier said than done, so if you need help, and would like to let The Divine do the heavy lifting, there are many options on this site for you. 

PS - Life is simple. The mind makes it complicated. Way too complicated.

The movie leaves out a few details..... OK, a lot of details. Everyone in the movie studied for years with master teachers, and practiced the principles over time. (I can tell who studied with whom by their buzz words and other cues.) They did not get there overnight. When you get up to the level where they are, things will manifest very quickly, but for now, you’re living in the reality you’re living in, and the rules of that reality prevail.

At each level of consciousness you attain, the reality is slightly different, until finally at some level of consciousness you do achieve mastery, and you do perform miracles. Just like at different levels of skiing people can ski different runs. You don’t even try the black diamond runs until you have the skill and that inner confidence that you can do it without crashing. And I definitely wouldn’t attempt hang gliding until you’re very confident (smile).

For example, if you're in fear, don't quit your job hoping to get your book published next week. If you're up there in bliss about money and work, the book could very well get published next week.

Take an extended course of study that gives you all the details you need, not just some bullet points and sound bytes.

Divine Openings will get you there, or you can pick any another program that works. You should see major attitude improvement within a week or so if the program really works, and you are focusing on what is good, not what isn't there yet. You should notice negativity moving out of you (and it feels bad on the way out, usually!) That's the start. Then you should feel much better in a few weeks, then see outer world results within 3-6 months.

Most importantly, stay the course once you know it works. Don’t let your mind distract you and talk you out of continuing. It wants you to stay in struggle! And don't mix too many modalities and get confused. You only need one good one, for awhile.

Dear Cindy, I like to keep it simple and lead you to be directed from within as soon as you're ready and able. I like to keep my mind out of the process as much as possible, so I haven't studied Hindu traditions or terms, and I don't use them. Shaktipat is similar to the Grace part of Divine Openings, but there is much, much more to Divine Openings than shaktipat, and Divine Openings energies continue to evolve and expand. Divine Openings gives you the conscious mind training that helps you allow the enlightenment process with ease, keep allowing expansion, and sustain it.

"I remember with gratitude those teachers who by their mere intention,
glance, word or touch can accomplish what is otherwise
obtained only with great effort and difficulty."
Kurt Keutzer

"What is your lineage?"
I have lifetimes of lineage in being a pioneer, spiritual and otherwise. I have no interest in past lives because I know my lineage is for all practical purposes right here with me in the here and now. I always have what I need, when I need it. This Thai Goddess painting emerged spontaneously from that lineage, and the 3 goddesses sculpture, I found in a store and had to have them! I give them no power, they just feel good to me, like sisters. I also honor my Christian lineage, but again, I live in the here and now, and have an intimate, in-the-moment relationship with God, rather than depending on ancient knowledge or scriptures (which have been edited to have little of the original meaning or power).

Who you are right now is even more expanded than your lineage ever was.

"Hi Lola, I absolutely love your work! I came across your website back in November of 2007, and have since bought the book, completed the level one online course, and just this week started level 2! Now, there have been lots and lots of great successes and progress, along with quite a few hairballs!  I rave, do my best each day to to be present and enjoy the process and go with the flow. 
 
Here's my question --  I feel lots of anxiety and resistance to fully letting go and letting the Divine do the heavy lifting.  And there is a powerful compulsion to do, do, do and DO!  Well, I've done all that in the past without much fun, enjoyment or results and want to enjoy letting go and letting the Divine do the heavy lifting.  Yet, the resistance seems so thick, so deep that I'm not sure when it'll lift and what to do with that do, do, do compulsion.  Any advice is greatly appreciated!"  Much love,  Jill

Jill, Well, first of all, don't resist your resistance. There's nothing wrong with doing, so don't make it wrong. I do a lot .... but The Divine matches me ten times over. Like those 401K matching plans, but 10x better! (grin)

Doing is great. We came here to do and be in the material world. The key is knowing what's not yours to do....

We tend to keep doing whatever we've been doing..... and that is the very core of "habit".
So if we've been, say, giving, we tend to keep giving, sometimes past the point where it's balanced.
If we've been taking, we tend to keep taking till someone says "no more."

If we've been eating chocolate, we tend to eat MORE chocolate. If we've been worrying, we tend to worry MORE. When I'm working on the computer, I tend to OVER-do it. I don't want to stop sometimes (as you can see from my 5 a.m. newsletters -- more grins)

It's Law of Attraction, but I like to keep it really simple and down to earth. It's habit.

So your job is to be conscious instead of letting habit run you. Do while it feels energizing and while it's flowing. When you feel the returns diminishing, or it's not flowing, stop and rest.  Do nothing. Or at first, switch to doing something more relaxing. Get yourself to take short refreshing breaks. When you love what you're doing, and it feels good, then keep doing it! We came here to do things. It's a physical world, and dinking around in it feels good..... for no apparent reason sometimes.

Go easy on yourself. Smile, and decide today that nothing is wrong with you. Laugh gently at yourself that you don't trust the power that runs the Universe to do a few things for you. Be with your distrust, gently. Don't try to fix it.  Breathe! Love, Lola

Life is an experience.

I'm vegan, but this leaves me wondering about the karma of something like eating meat, where, especially under modern factory farming conditions, animals are subjected to (bad conditions ....edited for vibrational purposes!) Animal rights orgs I belong to send me photos of the abuse. Animal suffering, and the sheer magnitude of it, is something that has really bothered me over the past few years.

There are all variety of experiences happening in the world. The Divine Presence is every one of those beings -- they are not alone in it. We cannot understand all of it from our limited selves. Each being is having its own experience.... and it's fleeting, not eternal.

Considering that you are disabled and homebound, is looking at pictures of disability, suffering, and decline helping you? I'd be reading about people who recovered from your disability and looking at pictures of healthy, happy, vital animals and people!

It just occurred to me that you might say I should air these questions and thoughts to God. Maybe that thought was God speaking to me saying, "Hey, I'm here!!!    Much love, Linda

Linda, Yay! Yes, talk to God about everything! And note that what you hear will be only as high as your vibration is on that topic. YOU will color and filter the voice of God to match YOUR vibration on that topic. Notice how much higher your vibration on the topic of karma is now -- and by contrast, where on the Altimeter it is regarding animals. Higher vibrations are easy to identify. They feel better.

There's another somewhat similar question about humans at the end of this page.

There are many things to say about this, so I'll just go through them one by one. This is an advanced perspective, and not everyone will like it or be able to hear it, so here goes:

Know that God experiences everything that you and that child experience, so no one, from the tiniest lizard to the mightiest human, is ever really separate from God, or alone. That child is a part of God, a unique focus of God in a physical body.

Souls know the circumstances they will face when they come here, and they know that they may not succeed in the human sense, but they do it anyway. Some take on hardship, and out of that hardship comes evolution in some way. It may not show up in this lifetime, but it will show up eventually. The Divine sees only that positive outcome. The Divine doesn’t see someone as sick or a victim.

Why do some people climb Everest knowing they could freeze to death doing it? Why do some people race cars at 250 miles per hour knowing they could perish in flames? Why do people go to horror movies and read suspense novels full of violence? Because they know the story will end. They know it’s not real. And this life is not real in the sense that we think it is. From Divine perspective it is rather like a novel or a movie, a creation to experience. We make it real so we can immerse ourselves fully in the experience.

When a soul incarnates, he/she is pure and innocent, with a very high vibration. But he soon begins to match the vibrations of those around him. He loses his own essence. In a poor town, with struggling parents, or even in prosperous America, this can happen easily. That vibration creates reality, and every reality attracts more of itself.

The universe is not personal. Even God, in the absolute and largest sense, is not personal. Through Divine Openings you will come to know an aspect of God that IS personal, though, and it cares about YOU and your wellbeing.

The laws of physics apply to everyone. They are totally impersonal. Gravity applies to everyone who jumps off a building whether they are a saint or a murderer. Law of Attraction is a law of physics, just like gravity. Now, Divine Openings can and does supercede Law of Attraction. Grace performs miracles that defy physics.

Every life has a value and has its own joy, beyond what we can understand from our small self perspective. The Divine loves all experience. 

Each lives their own life on this planet, for reasons we cannot fathom.
You cannot live it for them. If you try to, you will only ruin your own experience.

Know that every child is safe in the larger sense, just as every sparrow that is eaten by a hawk is safe in the care of The Divine. Each and every being is an eternal being who will never die. They will go on to other lives and adventures.

Now, do we still want to make a difference for others? Yes.
Do we still want to have compassion? Yes.
Can we do it from a low vibration? Not easily.
Can we do it by focusing on what is "wrong" in the whole world? No. That would swamp even Mother Teresa.

(I used to wonder how Mother Teresa did it. After I wrote this item, Mother Teresa died, and her diaries were published. Indeed Mother Teresa was not able to keep her vibration up as everyone thought she did, bless her. Her vibration nosedived and she spent forty years feeling separated from God. It is hard for even a saint to immerse themselves in the low vibrations of others and keep their own vibration up.)

You're on a hard road if you try to deal with every problem on the planet before you get yourself free. Get yourself unsinkable first. Put your own oxygen mask on before you assist other passengers, as they say on the airplanes.

Soothe yourself. Keep your vibration up. See the solution. You make more of a difference in the world by having a high vibration than you can possibly fathom. You help people across the world who will never know you helped.

First BE the outcome you want. Being is powerful. When you are at a very high vibration, you are your Large Self, your God Self, and you will know from within what to "do," or whether what you need to do is just add your high vibration to the collective and contribute by being that.

Doing is highly overrated, so do only when you are called to do.
Align your energy with God's first, seeing and being only the outcome you want.